If I Weren’t Afraid I Would….

How do you feel hear talk of obtaining your heart’s desire? 

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Do your eyes roll skyward?

When you start to focus on your heart’s desire and bring your awareness and attention and intention to that which your most authentic self desires and wants to create; magic happens.

If you feel that your goals are too far away, then it will be easy to give up or tune out.

However, you create with FOCUS as mentioned in my recent post.   

Focus on what you want to create next.  In other words, you don’t have to only think about the ultimate thing.  Just tune into what you would like to create next.  Bring your awareness to the next 30 days.   Immediately, you start to feel more focused about your goals/creation.

This is an exercise I learned from my teacher, Sonia Choquette.  

I like to start in the morning.  You can do this in the shower for the next 2 or 3 days.  Or you can write it down.  Close your eyes and fill in the blank:

If I weren’t afraid, I would…..

Check what comes up.  Certain things will come up again and again.  Notice how some of the things that come up have a stronger vibration.  These are the things that you take note of.  You create from your heart and your spirit.  These are your authentic desires.

1.Start to put your attention on the goals that you want to create.  There maybe one to three things.  

2.We create what we think about.  So watch what you are thinking about.  If you are having fear thoughts – then you will draw what you don’t want to you (as opposed to what you do want).  Instead keep focus on what you want to create.

3. Intention.  My intention today is…..Setting an intention is an important aspect in creating your hearts desire.  This can be life changing.  Your intention could be around “how do I want to feel today?”  Loved? nurtured?  This helps with your decision making throughout the day and keeps you aligned with your goals.

 

So, if you weren’t afraid – what would you do?

 

Try these steps and I would love to hear more about what you would like to create if you weren’t afraid!

Want to take this further?  I work with women to take you through an individualized programme to get you from where you are now to where you want to be.  We go deeper – because I want this to work for you.  Your ready to take action – because you want this to work for you.

Wanna know more?  Click here and book a free call with me.  My gift to you.

 

What’s Stopping You From Living Your Dream Life?

 

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My question to you is….Are you living your dream life?  are you making it count?  What is it you want to do with your life? What’s your hearts desire?  And what is stopping you from attaining it?

Are you living the life that you sometimes dream of or imagine?  What is your dream job?   Wanna work with animals? or work part-time?  or have more freedom in your life?

And what is the gap between where you are now to where you want to be?

I was set a challenge recently to post a pic on Social Media expressing my thoughts and feelings of where I am right now.  It was a little uncomfortable because it means showing my vulnerability.

For awhile I had no idea what to post – but then it was clear; I’ve had a semblance of freedom recently and I’ve also managed to manifest the EXACT opportunities that I have been dreaming of (more on that another time)!  

FREEDOM

 

I’m not saying everything is perfect.  

But, I want to share with you that through a process of deep inner work; you can start to make life more attractive for YOU!  

Yes, you may feel that your on a roller coaster and you will feel fear when you step outside your comfort zone to try something new.  I certainly did.  This is normal.

However, can you be brave enough to take a step that gets you from where you are now to nearer to where you want to be?  How cool would that be?

Below is what I learned from my Teacher, Sonia Choquette: 

Bring Your Dreams Into Focus:

  • Focus on what you love and notice how you feel.  I call this a ‘heart-list
  • Next, notice what is in your life that is missing that you really wish was there

Then you can start to think about:

  • What it is you want to create instead

My two tips for you:

1. Write it down.  [only thinking about it in your head don’t work too good.]

2. Have fun!

AND REMEMBER: You have already created & manifested wonderful stuff in your life – experiences, children, your home, your partner a new clothes – whatever!  So, think about the things that you have already successfully manifested.  Write those down and realise that you are already successful and you can learn to be more specific in your manifestation as opposed to being ad-hoc – why not?

 

Want to take this further?  I work with women to take you through an individualized programme to get you from where you are now to where you want to be.  We go deeper – because I want this to work for you.  Your ready to take action – because you want this to work for you.

Wanna know more?  Click here and book a free call with me.  My gift to you.

Reasons Not To Feel Sad

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Reasons not to feel sad

I had been talking to some coaching clients where were going through lots of stuff when I wrote this.  And I think I was going through stuff too!  That’s why I love yoga.  Feels so good to breath and let STUFF go!

I want to give you some reasons not to feel sad.  How do YOU feel during these Winter months? Over here in the UK it can be dark and cold. I keep hearing clients talking about SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder – sometimes called Winter Depression).  

There maybe other reasons why you feel sad.  Do you know why you are feeling the way that you do?  

How can you dig deep and find the joy inside?  How can you find your own ray of hope?  How do you bring forth your own happiness and joy despite the challenges? or the dark winter months?

I wrote this post some months back ‘Happy + my 7 Tips to get Happy Quick‘ and I thought it might be a good time to share it with you.

Remember YOU are responsible for your own happiness.  You get to choose.  Find the Light inside that is relevant to you.

Want more positivity & reasons not to feel sad?

Buy a Lumie clock which wakes you up slowly, with a light growing slowly brighter imitating sunrise.

Check out my Happy post here

 

Astrology

I don’t know if you follow Kelly Rosano – she is a wonderful Astrologist.  In the below video link she speaks about the coming Leo Full Moon on February 3rdn2015 and how there is a wonderful, celebratory, positive energy coming in for us all.  I’m sure that it will be a welcome shift for us.

Check out her video here.

This week, I invite you to be the light.   And remember:  

 

How Completing 3 MIT’s (Most Important Task’s Lists) Can Be So Productive For You!

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Are you constantly struggling with your To Do List in you life, work or business?

Have you heard of  the 3 MIT list? (3 Most Important Tasks)?

Its not a new concept.  I’ve known about if for awhile but it appears that simple sometimes appears too simple!  Which is silly really because it WORKS!

So have you been struggling with a massive long to do list and then getting frustrated when at the end of the day, you haven’t been able to complete your list of 1000 things!?  

Lately, I’ve started using 3 MITS technique and I’ve come to realize that it’s bloom-en brilliant!

How does it work?

Basically, you note down the 3 most important tasks that you want to accomplish that day.  This doesn’t mean that you ignore all your other tasks.  You simply prioritize your top 3 tasks.  I usually place these at the top of my journal page or planner.  

Okay, I know your list is a hundred things long each day, but realistically – are you going to achieve all of them in 24 hours?  So you can still keep your longer list if you like but whatever you do, ensure that you have your 3 most important tasks at the top of your list.

Work your damnedest to get your 3 most important tasks completed first before you work on anything else – and if you get your top 3 priorities completed – anything else is a bonus!  Genius!

Since, I’ve started implementing my 3 MIT, I’ve felt less stressed, enjoyed more productivity, and felt more balanced.

 

Sometimes we know about tips, tricks or strategies but we don’t implement them.  How are you going to implement this technique into your life, work or biz?

Share with me in the below comments section.  I would love to hear from you!

 

 

I Used To Be A Yoga Purist …

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I used to be a yoga purist, but….I had a long break from yoga due to illness.  Well, about 5 years.  I had such severe anaemia & chronic fatigue that at one time I could barely do Savasana (Corpse pose)!  Then, with the aid of Ayurveda, and then, eventually, convential medicine it has to be said; I got better and I was able to come back to yoga again full flow.

Whoa!

Before my break, I was most definately a yoga purist and a staunch advocate of the fact that yoga was so accessible – you could do it anywhere.  You didn’t need any equipment really – just a mat.  And even if you didn’t have a mat, you could practice on your floor.  I also purposefully wouldn’t  use props for the same reason– but then I have pretty long arms and am fairly flexible – but if I couldn’t reach something, I would prefer to use my clothes as ‘props’ (not for everyone, I know) – but that’s just me.  My yoga purism stated that yoga should be kept simple with minimum equipment. 

And, ahem, I used to find music slightly off-putting.

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Not now!

After my break away from the yoga scene; and my practice, I came back.  Slowly at first.  And I very quickly realized that times had moved on.  And I felt differently about the music.  I started to enjoy the way the music helped with the flow.  And I loved the way that even after a class, I might find myself humming to one of the tracks.  And I loved that the music stayed with me after my practice – like an extra dimension to the practice.

I’ve also always loved and enjoyed music and now it was the time to put yoga and music together.  I have to say, that personally, I can practice to anything, but I quickly learned that this way is not for everyone.   I don’t like to anchor anyone to a particular time or place as that would defeat the purpose.  I want the class to remain in the moment and to stay present to their practice.  The music is not there to put anyone off – it’s to help with the flow!   I tend to look out for music without words (as much as possible); although it doesn’t always work out that way.

Now:

There are still some yoga purist out there, but I am no longer one of them.  In my classes, I play all kinds of music including jazz, dance, dub, classical!  It’s often more modern stuff – but I love to mix it up with with chants and chimes etc., I also theme the music to what’s going on – the seasons, the moon cycle or an energy I may want to bring in for the class for example, some weeks might be a tribal theme.  Other weeks a funky flow theme.

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How do you feel about music in yoga classes?  Let me know in the comments below:

How To Listen To Your Body

If you feel angry and upset and you don’t process those feelings, what can happen is that you internalize those feelings.

Whilst I was on a week’s Yoga retreat recently; I suffered throughout the week with excruciating stomach cramps.  And as much as I was enjoying what I was learning, and LOVING spending time on my mat; I spent an awful lot of time rubbing my rather sore tummy!  On the 4th day, my teacher turned to me and said “who has upset you?”  And then it clicked!  Wow!   

Yes, there had been an upset the day before the  start of the course and I realized that although I had taken the steps I outlined in my previous post about anger; I hadn’t actually PROCESSED and dealt with how I was feeling.  I also hadn’t really spoken with anyone outside my family about my feelings.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

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The stomach is in the middle of our body and is often called the second brain.  This is because the system (called the enteric nervous system or ENS); is loaded with neurons throughout the entire alimentary canal.  This tells me that the stomach has an intelligence all of its own – and we should ignore this to our peril. 

I’ve always had a rather sensitive stomach and digestion. and I know that I really do have to start pay attention to what my body is telling me and listening out for and heeding the signs and symptoms.

How about you?  Do you listen to your body and are aware what your body is telling you?  If you tune in you might notice a pattern in the some of the signs and symptoms?  For example, maybe your eye always dances when there is bad news.  Or, like me, you get a stomach ache when you deal with a difficult person or situation.

You might find that at first you get a sweet whisper, then a nagging sensation; and if you keep ignoring the messages, you can become quite ill – all ways your body tries to get you to slow down and LISTEN.

Yoga is an excellent tool for tuning in and understanding our bodies.  But even with the tools – we can sometimes ignore the signs.

I INVITE YOU TO SLOW DOWN

So in 2015, I would like to re-commit to listening in more, loving more and tuning in more to my body.  And when I notice the signs and messages; I aim to do something about it, rather than ignoring it.  

For me, it meant that I needed to talk about how I was feeling rather than bottling it up as I usually do.  

These activities may help you:

  1. Sit quietly and allow yourself to relax
  2. Slow down
  3. Take time to listen to your body’s signals & messages
  4. Practice Yoga
  5. Breathe consiously
  6. Meditate

How about you?  Are you aware of your unique pattern of information that your body gives you?  Do you listen to the signs?  And what action steps would you like to take once you heed the signs & symptoms?   I invite you to share with me in the comments section below:

 

Date & Cashew Nut Balls

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My first Bliss Balls!  Woo Hoo – and they were so easy to make!  See below for the receipe for how to make these lovely Date & Cashew Nut Bliss Balls!

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Date & Cashew Bliss Balls
Serves 9
My First Bliss Balls! Raw, Vegan, Vegetarian, Dairy & Gluten Free
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Prep Time
20 min
Total Time
35 min
Prep Time
20 min
Total Time
35 min
Ingredients
  1. 1 Cup Dried Dates
  2. 1 Cup Cashews
  3. 2 TBS raw cacao powder
  4. 1 TBS desiccated coconut (plus extra for rolling)
  5. 1-2 TBS Coconut Oil
  6. (option to add 1 TSP honey)
Instructions
  1. Place the dates in a small bowl and cover with boiling water for 2-3 minutes to soften then drain off water.
  2. Put the cashews in a food process or mini chopper and pulse until they are blitzed into tiny bits
  3. Add the dates, cacao powder and coconut and blitz to form a paste
  4. Add the melted coconut oil slowly while continuing to pulse the mixture; until it forms a sticky dough
  5. Roll the dough into small balls and roll them in the coconut to coat the outside - TIP - place the ball in one palm and then roll with the finger close together to get the balls to be as round as possible. Then place on a tray.
  6. Freeze for 30 minutes
  7. Store in an airtight container in the fridge
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What to do when you feel really, really angry!

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What do you do when you feel really angry?  Like, really, really pee’d off!?  How do you cope with anger?  Especially when your trying to be a spiritual person?

Like when your angry because someone has pushed your buttons – and by the way, families are often the experts on which ones to push!  Do you end up feeling furious, outraged and frustrated?

Christmas & holidays can be especially difficult.  Families get together and old arguments and grudges can flare up.  There’s pressure to spend what you don’t have and force yourself to be having a good time – even when your not really feeling it.

It’s good to know how to stay cool and calm whenever you feel frustrated and angry. 

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 The best fighter is never angry.

 Lau Tzu 

I felt like this recently – I got really, really angry!  I knew what I needed to do to calm myself down – but my Ego didn’t want me to go there.   Instead, it wanted me to whine and complain about it – and hold onto that damn craziness!

What we need to do when we feel this type of frustration (and you’ll probably feel resistant to this)….is the very thing you won’t feel like doing!

I decided I would not allow my Ego to win! 

I sat in my meditation space, I lit candles, I meditated and I felt the stress ease away.

These are things that might work for you:

  • Walk away – even if its to excuse yourself and grab a glass of water
  • Pray
  • Meditate
  • Light a candle
  • Sit in a favorite place in your home
  • Pull angel cards for guidance
  • Simply breathe and relax
  • Practice yoga – (see my yoga postures for grounding)

You might find that you feel instantly better.  Then you will be better able to focus and listen-in to what your next steps should be.

  

 

How about you?  What do you do when you feel that red mist?  Share with me in the comments below.

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How to Stay Centered During the Holiday Season

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Whatever your beliefs, Christmas is a time of year that’s usually pretty crazy and stressful.  It’s a time when families get together and old resentments and arguments can flare up.

You might find that your dreading the whole season – let alone ‘the big day’!  It’s therefore good to have some supportive measures to help you stay centered during the hustle and bustle of the holiday season.

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Here are my fave tips for staying centred

 

Don’t bottle Stuff Up

When angry feelings comes up, it is better to let it out and deal with it.  It only hurts you in the end if you continually bottle stuff up.  Speak out about how you are feeling if it is hurting you.  Choose your moment (not necessary Christmas day!).  Think about what you want to say and practice it if necessary.  Then speak in a calm manner about how you feel.  If you are speaking from your heart you can’t go wrong.  

Remember:  If you need to create boundaries for your own sanity; then it’s perfectly ok to do so. 

 

Yoga

Practicing yoga gets you out of your mind and into your body.  Right now, my practice is a fairly strong Vinyasa practice.  I feel like the heat of the practice burns away everything that is no longer needed and serving me.  I find that the more I can let go on a physical level, the more I can adapt this into my emotional life.  However, at times I might want a simple grounding practice. Whatever your practice; moving your body, is supportive and enables you to focus on being present and in the moment.  

 

 Peace Breath

Practice this as much as you can throughout the day.  It has the ability to calm the mind.  Inhale your breath for 4 counts; Hold for 4 counts.  Breath out for 4 counts and hold for 4 counts before repeating the process.  The ratio therefore is 4:4:4:4.  You can amend this ratio to suit your own breath.  

 

Mantra

 Om Mani Padme Hum “within everybody a lotus blossoms”  My teacher advises me to practice this mantra with the peace breath.  It centers the mind.  For when you are not meditating, I found this useful rendition on-line incredibly uplifting to play in the background whilst working.

 

Smudging

Light a white sage smudge stick and clear negative energies.  You might find that you need to do this more frequently  during this season.

 

P.S.  Don’t forget to choose to do something from your heart-list.  In this way, you get to stay calm, centered and grounded throughout the holiday period and hopefully you get to ‘just do you’.

 

Let me know in the comments your tips and techniques for staying centered.

 

 

/R

 

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Ayuveda, Cycles + Goal Planning for the New Year

 

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I’ve just spent the most amazing 5 days enjoying Yoga and Ayuveda!  We worked a lot around cycles.  Cycles of the day, week, month year; and of course the cycle and phases of the Moon and the women’s cycle. 

According to Ayurveda, if we consciously attune ourselves to these cycles in our daily lives we can be more in our feminine power; our natural ability to heal, nurture, nourish and intuit.   

Ayuveda is all about bringing our doshas (biological energies found throughout the body and mind) into balance where possible.  The 3 main doshas are Kapha (Earth & Water); Pitta (Fire & Water) and Vata (Air & Space).  We are all born with a more dominant dosha and the doshas are effected by what we eat, think, feel and also the cycles of the year.

Was it synchronicity that the course ended on  the eve of a full moon?  I doubt it!  

Each day, our practice was based on the seasons of the year.  However, our last practice was a gorgeous 2 hour Moon (Chandra) Vinyassa practice.  Lunar practices are often, cooling and nourishing – however, my teacher works with fire (Pitta) in everything she does – so it was always going to be a strong Vinyassa class but we ended with a sumptuous 20 minute Savasana!  (Yum!)

This brings me to goal writing.  It now makes perfect sense that you should align your goals with the phases of the moon.  This means that between now (after the last full moon of the year)  and the winter solstice on 21 December is the optimum time to release 2014 and prepare your goals for 2015 (as opposed to January 1st).  Because the light is decreasing each day culminating in the shortest day of the year at Winter Solstice. You get to let go and release during this time so that you don’t bring 2014 in with the New Year. 

 

Guidelines for Writing Your Goals for the New Year

Have you started working on your goals for next year yet?.. I feel that working with the natural cycles of the planet will be big theme for me this year.  How about you?  See below for a really great way to prepare your goals for 2015 that I learned on the course:

  1. Treat yourself to a lovely new journal (oh what a shame you get to go stationery shopping)!
  2. Next start writing a list of what you are grateful and thankful for in 2014 – tip – make the list long – keep going even when you think your done!
  3. Next write your goals for 2015 – tip – make the list in present tense!  i.e. ‘I am living the most amazing life’

Have you started to plan your goals for 2015?  Any gorgeous, juicy ideas and goals lined up?  I would love to hear from you!  Share with me in the comments!

P.S.  Want to know what your primary and secondary Dosha is?  Best to see a qualified Ayuvedic practitioner.  However,  I’ve found an amazing tool on-line for you to do a Dosha Self -Test 

P.P.S  If you do take the test, don’t forget to share with me what your Dosha is and how accurate you found the test.  

 

/R