Holding Space

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Being present.  Being in the now.  Taking space.  Holding space.  Just being.

Not easy, especially for me.  The thing is I’ve come to realise that I’m so very sensitive that when I’m speaking – I spend time thinking and wondering what the other person is thinking about.  I’m so busy watching their facial expressions and interpreting them (often wrongly) and thinking that the other person is judging me or thinking this or that – so I get confused and lost in my own ‘madness’ really.

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But lately I’ve started to practice holding space.  It’s about standing there.  In your own power.  And Being.  It’s like I’m here.  Yes – I said that.  I think that.  That’s my opinion and if the other person wrinkles their nose – well their nose could be itching!  That’s all.  And me not worrying about it and not interpreting it in any way at all.

That’s when you realise that it’s ok to stand in your own space.  It’s ok to have boundaries.  I am over here and you are over there.  That’s it.

Why don’t you try it?  When you are speaking to someone.  Stand or sit up tall.  Take some deep breaths in and out.  Hold space.  Be fully present.  Listen attentively.  Really SEE the other person.  Take in what is around you in the room.  Be alert and give the other person your full attention.  Pause before you speak.  Hold yourself in your power.

It won’t be easy.  You have to make an effort to continue to practice this.  Let me know how you get on by commenting below.

Coconut & Lime Cake

Today I made a Coconut & Lime Loaf cake.  The ingredients are at the bottom of this blog.  It’s pretty easy really.  The receipie is from Levi Root’s cookbook.  But it tastes ever so good and quite homey.  My husband loves it and even little man enjoys a small slice.  He enjoys it warm from the oven.  All very ‘Emmerdale Farm’ and cosy!

So why do I enjoy baking? I guess because I get peace and quiet whilst I bake, like when I am gardening.  I need to concentrate on measuring out the ingredients and take my time over the mixing.  It good to improvise here and there too, for example today I added vanilla extract to my cake – even though it wasn’t in the recipe.  It’s kind of like using creativity even though in a really small way.




I often use my creativity this way in baking or cooking by improvising with the ingredients – I’ve had so many food intolerances over the years that I have had to.  So there have had times I’ve used wheat free flour, eggless cakes, brown sugar instead of caster sugar etc.

But it’s still a practice.  Practicing creativity.  After all – how do we get to do something different, if not by practicing?  Hence the name Yoga Practice.  One needs to practice the asana’s on a regular basis to get better at them and to also learn from them.

When your silent and concentrating whilst baking (likewise in a yoga or Pilates class); your mind is focused on that activity therefore taking your attention away from the chattering mind.  The myriad thoughts that go round and round and so whilst baking I get the peace of mind that I crave.  And that feeling of contentment inside.  That place of home.  Of joy.

What takes you to that place?

Coconut & Lime Loaf Cake
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  1. 175g (6oz) Self Raising flour;
  2. 1 tsp baking powder;
  3. 175g butter/margarine;
  4. 175g golden caster sugar;
  5. 3 eggs lightly beaten;
  6. 50g (2oz) desiccated coconut;
  7. Zest & juice of 2 limes (I sometimes use 1 - and its fine);
  1. Beat everything together until light and fluffy with an electric whisk/mixer;
  2. Pour into a 2lb/900g loaf tin;
  3. Bake at 180C for 45-55 minutes;
Rosemarie St. Louis http://intuitivegroundedcoaching.com/

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