Signs & Symptoms of Introversion
Are you an introvert? How do you know how to look out for the signs and symptoms of introversion?
I attended a women’s circle and heard a few of the women’s stories (always loved women’s stories) and I began to resonate very warmly with quite a few of them. Many of the women said that they were introverted. Hold on, why was this resonating with me? Was I really an introvert? Are you?
Mmm – the Signs and Symptoms are there…
Hearing other ladies describe themselves as introverted made me realize I have a tendency towards this also. Its interesting cos I realize that maybe now I can embrace this side of me and not push it away. Its like the realization that I am a bit different. I have always been a bit of a hippy – and always loved being around hippy type people – probably why I went to India and studied yoga.
In many offices I have worked in over the years, I have often sought out a room to practice yoga or to meditate or just sit in (often offices will have a prayer room); I also like to have at least 2 to 3 lunch breaks a week on my own where I can take a walk and then find a nice quiet coffee shop where I can have a luxurious read (& maybe a soya cappuccino; extra hot, 1 shot). I have always relished these moments, without really knowing the reason why. Which is that introverted people tend to crave moments when they can be on their own so that they can recharge and re-energise.
Other Signs of Introversion
I’ve never really liked small talk with people either. I would much rather have a real connection with someone – you know, when you actually really talk and actually just get where each other is coming from.
Also, I’ve never been a real quick thinker with the ability to quickly fire off an answer (like extroverts tend to do); I used to kick myself a bit because of this until I started to embrace my quietness and introversion. Ok I was different from a load of people. But I was me. I started to realise that I had my own quiet strength. And quiet strength has value too.
Both my husband and I love spending time at home as well. Too many evenings out just feel stressful to us and we have the need to be back home (I reckon he is an introvert too)!
I’ve never cared to stay out for weekends or overnight with friends or even family. I would much rather be in the comfort of my own home. Whereas growing up (and even now) my sisters were the opposite and would quite enjoy the change of scene. They couldn’t understand why I didn’t feel the same….and to be honest neither did I. Until now…..
Susan Cain’s book Quiet : The Power of Introverts in a world that can’t stop talking, is amazing; for me, it was like understanding there are two types of people in this world – introverts and extroverts – and a load more things began to make sense.
It made me realise that there were loads more introverted, quiet people out there. And reinforced the fact that quiet people could remain quiet and still be powerful. Having a name for it helps in a way. I used to meet people who I got on with and in my head I would go – “oh she’s normal”. I would know what I meant inside. I meant that I could resonate with that person much more as they weren’t extroverted. Don’t get me wrong, extroverts are great! Often funny and quick-witted and often keep things moving along in a group or party. I also think that we all pop out occasionally and have extrovert tendencies (if we are usually introverted and vice versa); But I can’t maintain extroversion because it’s not my natural way and doesn’t fit it with my core values.
I LOVE this article from the Huffington Post – 23 Signs You’re Secretly An Introvert.
Let me know if any of this or the 23 Signs resonate with you.
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